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 Post subject: Need some help w/ a family matter....might need legal advice
PostPosted: Sun Mar 02, 2014 4:18 pm 
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As unusual as it is to ask for some advice on a mets forum, Im hoping someone might be able to help. Plus writing this out can be a bit therapeutic, especially since I cant talk to anyone about this since everyone I know is connected to my family in one way or another and Id prefer to keep it private, for now. Being an online message board, where no one knows me, makes it easier to open up. Anyways, here goes (bare with me, I might start to ramble)

Recently Ive been going through some issues medically and dont want to get into details but what my endo noticed was suspicious and we scheduled more tests (bloodwork taken and if tests come back positive, ultrasound and biopsy will be taken. I'll know more on tuesday)

anyways, thats just one concern I have and no matter what happens, Im young and healthy so it doesnt worry me as much, and dont want to scare anyone in my life with this until I know its something, praying it turns out to be nothing.

The second concern I have is this (my life seems to be full of concerns, probably karma)

about 3 years ago my older brother needed a vehicle and his credit was shot. Mine, isnt so I decided to lease a vehicle for him. He lives in maryland, I was in NY at the time (In MI now). He was responsible enough to make more than half the payments (I made 14 payments on his behalf). The lease was due to be returned Jan 2nd and He is over the miles by about $8k in overage. I extended it for another 2 months since he was interested in buying the car, which would be the best option, as opposed to paying the 8K. His wife, who now has decent enough credit, can purchase the car. Since the extension, he was informing me that he is working on getting a third party loan. A month passed and still nothing. he assured me he is working on it. ANother month has now passed and now, all of a sudden, he has disappeared. His last message to me was that he would extend it for one more month and that hes now overseas on vacation with family.

From some research done by myself, I found out he no longer lives in maryland. Some records show he may have moved to florida. My concerns are that since he never extended it for a third month, that the car is due to be returned tomorrow and upon being returned, the overage in miles (plus any other damages beyond normal wear and tear) would be due. Im hoping to get VW to extend the lease for one more month so that it can give me time to track the car down. At this point, Im not interested in dealing with my brother and just want the car back so that I can take care of it. Rather than return it to VW, I'll most likely just buy it outright (even if the value of the car is a couple K below what I would have to pay, its still better than spending 8k for nothing).

My legal matter is this, how do I go about trying to find the vehicle and once found, how would I recoup my losses? How would I protect myself in the case I cant find the vehicle and would then be forced to call VW to inform them of the issue. What kind of repercussion is there for me if the VW considers the car to be "stolen", even if I work diligently with them in searching for it?

Aside from putting my life on hold to go search for the car, Im already dealing with the stress whats going on medically and by leaving to maryland on monday, I would also be leaving my appointment with my doc. Either way, the bloodwork would still require the ultrasound and biopsy so I wouldnt be missing much.

what do I do? Im afraid that if I dont find the vehicle within a few days, VW may report the car stolen (and I cant exactly give this info to VW. I want to take care of this without involving them in this mess.)

Im not trying to get any sympathies here I just couldnt tell anyone else and this place offered, at the very least, a way for me to get this off my chest, for now. With my luck though, Id bet that at least one of my family member visits this place and connects the dots lol!

Even if no one is able to offer any advice, at least i feel much better writting it out. Thanks to this place.

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 Post subject: Re: Need some help w/ a family matter....might need legal ad
PostPosted: Mon Mar 03, 2014 11:19 pm 
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spoke to VW today, I extended the lease for one last month. That should give me time to get things in order.

Heading to Maryland tomorrow morning (Germantown, Gaithersburg area)

maybe I get lucky and find my A **** of a brother there. God help me if he actually is there.

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PostPosted: Tue Mar 04, 2014 10:58 am 
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PostPosted: Tue Mar 04, 2014 1:43 pm 
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yowza. hope things work out for you, especially medically.


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PostPosted: Sat Mar 08, 2014 11:34 am 
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You might want to consider the possibility that maybe your brother is just humiliated and afraid to face you, and not an a****** before you deal with him too harshly.

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PostPosted: Sun Apr 20, 2014 2:54 am 
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all okay on the heath front. sorry for the long time away. nodule dissipated and retest came back negative. I have to see the specialist for a checkup again in 3 weeks

as for the vehicle portion of it

I was able to retrieve the vehicle and had it shipped from maryland once it was located. From the looks of it, I was right. The car was not in good shape and has so far cost me 18k (15.7 to buy with tax and 2k in repairs)

already replaced the 2 struts, 2 tie rods, entire rear axle and 2 wheels (wheels had sever cosmetic damage requiring replacement) so far

still trying to get it up to standards but it looks like some tranny repair may be needed as well. taking it to another mechanic on monday for another opinion on it

all in all, im happy that health wise Im fine, not so much about the car

Lesson learned. I should have leaned my lesson when he took 4k from me and never returned it (I forgave him)

its funny because this guys 10 years older with a wife and 2 kids and hes not exactly pressed for money. I guess when your a bad person, your just a bad person. Being a brother doesnt change that

thanks all for the replies and again, sorry for leaving anyone hanging. I wasnt out of the woods until a few days ago and didnt want to say anything without having a definitive conclusion on everything

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PostPosted: Mon Apr 21, 2014 10:14 am 
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far more important is the good health report. way to go. =D>


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PostPosted: Sat Apr 26, 2014 7:22 pm 
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Thanks HK.

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